{"id":1276,"date":"2022-01-07T04:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-07T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/?p=1276"},"modified":"2022-01-16T00:41:41","modified_gmt":"2022-01-16T06:41:41","slug":"january-7-getting-less-pushed-and-pulled","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/january-7-getting-less-pushed-and-pulled\/","title":{"rendered":"January 7 &#8211; Getting less pushed and pulled"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Dear Friends,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dharmaseed.org\/talks\/57629\/\" target=\"_blank\">next recording<\/a>, Jill brings in reflections on feeling tone, <em>vedana<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Feeling tone arises when a sense organ makes contact with an object. Light waves bouncing off an object meet the eye &#8211; and sight arises &#8211; and also a flavour to that contact &#8211; pleasant, unpleasant, or neither pleasant or unpleasant (simplified as neutral). Seeing the flower blossom on my holiday cactus &#8211; pleasant. Seeing the dishes waiting to be washed by the sink &#8211; unpleasant. Seeing the walls behind the computer monitor &#8211; pretty neutral.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The feeling tones happen automatically. Where mindfulness can help is with what happens next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If we&#8217;re not mindful, our habit patterns kick in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Flower &#8211; pleasant &#8211; I should buy more plants, I wonder if they are on sale, and maybe get a plant stand so I have more space by the window.<br>Pulling toward, wanting more &#8211; conditioning a pattern toward craving and greed.<\/li><li>Dishes &#8211; unpleasant &#8211; I hate doing dishes, I should get a dishwasher but there&#8217;s no room for a dishwasher in this stuplid old house, or I could just stop being a lazy slob, &#8230;<br>Pushing away, resisting &#8211; conditioning a pattern toward aversion and ill-will.<\/li><li>Walls &#8211; neutral &#8211; hmm, what? There must be something else is there to do.<br>Zoning out, ignoring &#8211; conditioning a pattern toward delusion.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If we can insert mindfulness into the process, then pleasant can simply be pleasant, and unpleasant just unpleasant. We don&#8217;t have to add all the story and reactivity that can drive us to one-click purchases that we later regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the recording, Jill offers a practice the participants did in pairs &#8211; one listener and one speaker &#8211; where the speaker would note out loud things that were unpleasant, then neutral, then pleasant. I have also participated in social meditation practices of <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.socialmeditation.guide\/intermediate\/noting-pleasant-and-unpleasant\" target=\"_blank\">noting pleasant and unpleasant<\/a>. What I find neat about doing this type of activity aloud is it slows things down just enough that I can feel the leaning into or the pulling back from an experience &#8211; and also how hard it can be to even tune into so many other things that are happening in the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I took MBSR, in one week, we kept a &#8220;pleasant events journal&#8221; &#8211; and in another week an &#8220;unpleasant events journal&#8221;. The effect here was similar &#8211; waking up some interest in what was going on, how it felt in the body, and how I responded in terms of emotions or thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We can also practice with this in meditation. Here&#8217;s one from Jozen Tamori Gibson &#8211; the guided meditation follows about 10 minutes of some comments and instructions.<br><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dharmaseed.org\/talks\/62388\/\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/www.dharmaseed.org\/talks\/62388\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I invite you to be curious and to play with this!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With good wishes,<br>Andrea<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pbs.twimg.com\/media\/CFJjKHhWAAE9H0i?format=jpg&amp;name=900x900\" alt=\"A quote is above a picture of Cookie Monster. The quote says &quot;Today me will live in the moment unless it's unpleasant in which case me will eat a cookie.&quot;\nThe image is from https:\/\/twitter.com\/dharmawave\/status\/599650726063828992\" width=\"360\" height=\"500\"\/><figcaption>Credit <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/dharmawave\/status\/599650726063828992\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/twitter.com\/dharmawave\/status\/599650726063828992<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Friends, In the next recording, Jill brings in reflections on feeling tone, vedana. Feeling tone arises when a sense organ makes contact with an object. Light waves bouncing off an object meet the eye &#8211; and sight arises &#8211; and also a flavour to that contact &#8211; pleasant, unpleasant, or neither pleasant or unpleasant (simplified as neutral).\u2026 <span class=\"read-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/january-7-getting-less-pushed-and-pulled\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[302],"tags":[38,37,104,306],"class_list":["post-1276","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-jan-2022","tag-cookie-monster","tag-feeling-tone","tag-jill-shepherd","tag-jozen-tamori-gibson"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1276","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1276"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1276\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1277,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1276\/revisions\/1277"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1276"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1276"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.grzesina.net\/meditation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1276"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}